However, last Saturday when we at the local Hallmark store picking out the next addition to our Willow Tree nativity set, I took a moment to admire the rest of the oh-so-cute collection.
When Craig walked over to see what I was looking at, I had to remind him that "aren't these so cute, and remember these, these are what you are going to get me every time we have a new baby." Hmmm?
Am I being hypocritical? Is it the same thing even though those ladies want really expensive jewelry and want it right away? Or is my desire for a pretty reminder of each child's birth sweet and not at all the same as those crazy ladies demanding payment because they had to carry the child for 9 months and not the husband?
goodness! i've never heard of those! i think thats as weird as giving eachother a wedding gift, is the rest of my life devoted to you not enough!? now women expect more jewelry for doing what we're created to do! soon people will demand a gift for getting up in the morning!
ReplyDeleteI love those willow tree figurines! I dont think something like that as a momento (not that you'd forget child birth, but maybe something you pass down to the child that is represents) would be a big deal. I think that'd be kind of nice. but demanding expensive things, is silly! do they not realize how expensive the kid they just had is? insead of a diamond necklace, perhaps the start of a college fund if you've got that kind of cash!
Well, I guess it depends. I am an extremely gift oriented person. It is more about thought rather than monetary value for me.
ReplyDeleteMy first child with my husband Jon did not get me flowers, a card, nothing. zip. zero.
I felt terrible. I didn't expect a gift, but flowers or a card would have been wonderful.
With Matthew, he brought me an amazing gift. A gold snake chain with three bevel-set birthstones for each of our boys.
It is one of my most prized possessions.
My husband watched me vomit my guts out and be hospitalized for a combination of months to get our children here.
He wanted to tell me thank you and he wanted to do it in a tangible way.
Isn't that a better reason to give a gift like jewelery than a holiday like Valentines Day??
I see both sides of the issue. I'm okay with a gift as long as it's an honest expression of gratitude, not a response to a sense of entitlement. I think the sentiment is much more important than the bling.
ReplyDeletei want that willow tree nativity set so freaking bad!!!
ReplyDeletewhen i had my kids, i didn't expect gifts, but my (ex) husband brought me flowers both times. he thought moms deserved flowers.